Ah, selfies. The phenomenon that made us really care about Instagram, phones having more than one camera, and advice from Kim Kardashian.

In an era where technology is developing at such a remarkable pace and we all walk around with access to a theoretically infinite library, it’s nice to know that a significant portion of the technological wonder-wielding masses devotes actual battery life and cellular data to taking and viewing selfies. The Oxford Dictionary actually named “selfie” the word of 2013. Think about that.

While seemingly innocuous, you may be surprised to know that our cultural obsession with pictures of ourselves carries with it some truly terrible implications – just kidding. It should be obvious and not at all surprising how bad the selfie phenomenon is, at least ever since there was a serious market – and later, a legal blowback – around a product that called itself a “selfie stick.” Come on.

So what’s so bad about selfies? Simply put, they are messing with our heads. Or at least getting plastic surgeons to mess with our heads, er, faces; according to a recent survey, 1 in 3 surgeons reported increases in plastic surgery requests for the sole purpose of looking better on social media. Selfies are fueling our tendency towards vanity so much that people are actually willing to go under the knife to fix minor imperfections that are, of course, more noticeable as front-facing phone cameras increase in megapixels.

Unnecessarily drastic physical alterations aside, selfies are also contributing to – or at least reflecting – some very real occurrences of mental illness. To the shock of absolutely no one, those people who just flood social media with pictures of themselves frequently express symptoms of narcissism and obsessive-compulsive disorder – leading to some severe cases of dysfunctional behavior, like one aspiring model who eventually began cutting classes and refusing to leave his home in pursuit of the perfect selfie, taking up to 200 selfies a day. Psychologists all over have noted an increase in body dysmorphia since the rise of social media and the popularity of selfies.

Further studies suggest that a proclivity towards selfies could also result in problems in relationships. While these selfie-posting addicts often actually had a very positive body self-image, they tended to report conflicts with partners and spouses, mostly over attention from online followers over pictures, which is a frankly ridiculous conflict to have in a relationship.

When selfies first became popular, it was a different story. The selfie was typically accompanied by an interesting background – “Look ma, I’m at the Eiffel Tower, and I didn’t feel the need to bug someone to take a picture for me!” – but as the experience sharing element subsided and vanity and narcissism took its place, selfies became indicative of a serious issue in our self-obsessed society.

How to Make Casual Sex Work

How to Make Casual Sex Work

Sometimes a little fun with no pressure is harmless. However, when one of you catches feelings, that’s when sh*t hits the fan.

Casual sex is not for everyone. But if you’ve got the itch especially bad at a certain point in time, and you feel it’s necessary to scratch it … well, then, you might want to heed my advice.

Pick your standards.

First ask yourself, what are you looking for? It is always a good idea to not set the bar high, especially if it is just a hookup. If you have sexual fantasies about a guy that person would be a good candidate for a casual sex partner. He himself will be a constant reminder about why the relationship could never work out. The minute he opens his mouth, the reason will be clear.

Respect your Boundaries.

If you head out to the bar and you spot the one you are going to hook up with for the night, and then later on you decide, no I’m not down anymore- listen to yourself on that one. Remember girls, it’s always OK to say no. In casual sex, you have control of basically everything, so take advantage of this.

Know what you are after.

If what you want is casual sex, remember that you are looking for casual sex. Remember, casual sex is physical pleasure without emotional baggage. That’s your goal. Not the romantic type of relationship that everyone rolls their eyes at. Casual sex and relationship sex are two different types that mean two totally opposite things.

Avoid involving friends.

Have many friends in common? Avoid casual sex with this person. You’ll end up spending a lot of time washing dirty linen in public if the cat gets out of the bag. Worse, if you have a frenemy, you could easily be the next topic for spicy gossip at the next pregame.

Dont put up with BS.

The keyword in casual sex is casual. There should be no baggage, emotions, feelings etc. But, just because you’re only having casual sex, that doesn’t mean the dude can treat you badly. He should arrive when he says he’s going to; he should respond in no longer than three minutes to your texts, etc. Dont forget that he is benefiting from having no-strings-attached sex with you also.  Or, if your looking to get started with sex dating then head over to – the world’s #1 casual sex app.

6 Things to try When Dating

6 Things to try When Dating

Welcome to the world of dating. It is a weird and confusing place, but also is an exciting time in your life. You’ll meet folks from all walks of life and always get a little more than you bargained for. The first stage of a relationship when people start dating is definitely the most important time of the relationship.

Following the advice below will guarantee you a happier and longer relationship.

Tip #1

You should always be modest. If you marry this person, you’ll have a lifetime of nakedness, flirting, mooning, and maybe some inappropriate flashing. But don’t give up all of this fun while you’re dating. Keep your first few years of marriage awesome. And naked. What is that saying again? You only live once.

Tip #2

Compliment each other. Who does not like to be told they are pretty or cute? This holds true for women, too, who should tell their date that they look handsome and that their hair looks sexy. What makes us incredible beings is our ability to uplift others with only a few words. What is attractive to your date beyond any physical beauty you may possess is the beauty of your soul. Remember, beauty is on the inside as well.

Tip #3

Respect the natural progression of intimacy. It is easy to feel rushed or pressured into a relationship or to say “I love you.” Telling someone new how much you really, really like them adds a lot of depth to the relationship. Instead, gradually reveal your inner thoughts, feelings, and personal story starting with light and casual then progressing to a deeper and more intimate feel.

Tip #4

Try not to focus on money. Men especially tend to be cautious of women who spend a lot of money and expect to be treated like princesses. If you go on a date, always offer to foot the bill or split it. If you cannot afford the expensive outings, find cheaper ones that will enable you to have a good time too. Remember, the fun can be cheap as well, it does not always mean a $1,000 shopping spree or a sushi dinner.

Tip #5

Take your time and enjoy the moment. Everything you need to learn in order to make the “can I marry this person” decision occurs within one year. Sure, you will not know everything about them, but you’ll know enough. Date a year. Not four. Don’t make excuses. You will know when you are ready.


Do not be a complainer. “I’m hot.” “I’m bored.” “I’m hungry.” Yeah, that is going to get old really fast. Nothing is a bigger turn off to a man or a woman than a chronic complainer. Be conscious of how your date describes the circumstances of their life: do they see their glass as half empty or half full?

People are complex, to say the least. Use these six tips to take the confusion out of dating casually and finally attract an amazing person into your life.